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- New female action figures aim to empower girls with earthy values
- 5 tips for getting kids to eat more fruit
- Gen-Neglected: Are we giving kids a future of emotional issues?
| New female action figures aim to empower girls with earthy values Posted: 02 Jun 2014 12:15 AM PDT  They're a hit! The IAmElemental toy action figures, aimed at young girls and wielding "everyday superpowers", have doubled the toymakers' Kickstarter campaign target in less than three days after it was launched. A new breed of female superhero toys seeking to empower girls with earthy values and they are taking the Internet by storm. IAmElemental is a new range of action figures designed for young girls which aims to foster creativity and change the perception of superpowers. An antidote to the existing female action figures on the market, which the designers claim are "more Hooters than heroine," the figures feature realistic breast, waist and hip ratios, and each character is named after an everyday superpower. The first series of figures represents "the seven elements of courage," with characters called Bravery, Energy, Honesty, Industry, Enthusiasm, Persistence and Fear. Each of the armoured figures is bendable, features five articulation points and comes with a removable accessory that reflects their superpower.     The initial series of IAmElemental action figures seen above, representing what their makers call "the seven elements of courage", with realistic body proportions and empowering attributes. The brainchild of New York-based design team IAmElemental – led by Julie Kerwin and Dawn Nadeau, who are both mothers – the project has already more than doubled its US$35,000 (RM113,000) target since its May 13 launch on the crowd-funding website Kickstarter. The company aims to start shipping the toys in December. According to their blog, the idea for the action figures came to Kerwin and Nadeau when they couldn't find any toys in the market that were empowering for young girls. Instead, they found toys they viewed as "more Hooters than heroine", owing to the toys' unrealistic body proportions and overly sexualised image.  Julie Kerwin and Dawn Nadeau, founders of IAmElemental: "Our mission is to create toys for play experiences that allow girls to envision themselves as strong, powerful and connected beings at the center of a story of their own making." "We fervently believe that girls (and boys) are not only capable of creating their own stories, but that story creation is a vital part of their emotional development," explains the design team. "Why live vicariously through someone else? Why not be a real, live Superhero?" – AFP/RelaxNews |
| 5 tips for getting kids to eat more fruit Posted: 01 Jun 2014 11:15 PM PDT Encourage even the pickiest eaters to up their fruit and vegetable intake. Getting children to eat enough fruit can be a challenge. Only 2% of American children meet the CDC's recommended targets for fruit and vegetable intake, according to the website of the Fruits and Veggies – More Matters initiative. And while vegetables can sometimes be a hard sell, most children actually enjoy eating fruit. Here are five tips for encouraging them to eat more of it. 1. Serve children the fruits they like, even if it is at the expense of variety. There is no reason why kids who love bananas shouldn't have one every day. Eventually, parents can add variety by combining a favourite fruit with new ones. 2. Fruit can be eaten at any time of day as a snack, and not just as a dessert. Consider serving fruit to kids with breakfast, as an after-school snack, or even in a salad with dinner. 3. Set a good example. It is well established that children tend to imitate their parents' behaviour, particularly at mealtimes. So parents should set the example by eating plenty of fruit themselves. 4. Prepare fruit in front of children or involve them in the process. Whether it's scooping out melon balls for fruit salad, washing berries, or coring apples, giving children a task in preparing fruit will make them more likely to enjoy eating the result. 5. Provide easy access to fruit. Keep a bowl of fruit on the kitchen table and allow kids to help themselves. For children who enjoy eating fruit, sometimes the best way to boost their intake is simply to remind them to eat it when they're hungry. – AFP Relaxnews |
| Gen-Neglected: Are we giving kids a future of emotional issues? Posted: 31 May 2014 09:00 AM PDT Ongoing research into the causes and effects of emotional neglect has shown that children who do not receive ample displays of love, attention and positive emotions are more prone to developing physical, psychological and emotional problems as adults. According to the National Child Abuse and Neglect Data System (NCANDS), neglect is "a type of maltreatment that refers to the failure by the caregiver to provide needed, age-appropriate care, although financially able to do so or offered financial or other means to do so." It is usually characterised by a consistent pattern of inadequate care that is obvious to those who are in close contact with a neglected child. There are four basic types of neglect, namely physical neglect (failure to provide basic necessities such as food, water and clothing), medical neglect (failure to meet a child's basic healthcare needs, such as ensuring that he receives his mandatory vaccinations or taking him to the doctor when he is sick), educational neglect (failure to educate him by sending him to school or allowing him to skip school without reason), and emotional neglect (failure to provide emotional support, which includes giving him warmth, love and encouragement. This includes refusing to hold/touch him, ridiculing him, or isolating him from friends and family members). Of the four types of neglect, emotional neglect is often the most difficult to identify and is often reported secondary to other forms of neglect. However, it is a highly pervasive and increasing problem in modern society. Neglecting an infant's need for mental stimulation and failing to nurture him as he grows can result in delays in his mental/cognitive development. In the long term, an emotionally neglected child may have poor self-image, which could lead to alcohol/drug abuse, destructive behaviour, and even, suicide. "Abuse" and "neglect" are terms that are often used interchangeably. However, they represent two different types of maltreatment — abuse happens when someone acts against the child (e.g. physical abuse), whereas neglect happens when someone fails to act for the child (e.g. leaving a child at home unattended). While defining emotional abuse and neglect may be complex and imprecise, most professionals agree that the occasional negative attitude or action of parents may not yield harmful or permanent effects on a child. However, both emotional abuse and emotional neglect follow a persistent and chronic pattern. Reasons for emotional neglect There are many reasons why emotional neglect could enter the picture. They include: · Busy parents – Working parents often do not have time for their children (e.g. talking to them or playing with them). Some parents may feel overwhelmed with work or stress, to the extent that they start to reject their child emotionally. Some parents may isolate themselves from their child or are unable to interact with them. It is important to find a balance between work and family life to avoid neglecting your child. · Structure of the family – If you are a single parent, you may find it a struggle to be there for your child emotionally, while juggling your demands at work. Elsewhere, parents with large families (say you have seven kids) may find it difficult to connect emotionally with every one of their children. · Mental health issues – These issues may affect the way a parent cares for a child or respond to their child's needs. They may be unable to interact with their child, thus neglecting their emotional needs. Some parents may lead disorganised lives that could result in a chaotic household. This could affect their children emotionally in the long run. · Parents' own history – A parent who was emotionally neglected as a child tends to lack empathy and is more likely to emotionally neglect their own children. They may not respond to their children or are unable to establish a meaningful relationship with them. Being deprived of love and a sense of attachment in childhood can make them incapable or unwilling to provide adequate attention and affection to their children. · Inappropriate expectations of their children – Some parents expect their children to behave in a certain way or meet certain standards (whether in behaviour or in school). When their children do not live up to these "standards", they pull away from them emotionally. Emotional neglect can have a significant impact on your child's mental and behavioural development. It is imperative that you recognise the symptoms of emotional neglect so as to ensure that your child grows into a happy and wholesome individual. What are the effects of emotional neglect? A baby who has been deprived of basic emotional nurturance may develop a poor sense of self, even if he has been well-cared for physically. He could grow into an anxious and insecure child with low self-esteem. Often, children who have been emotionally neglected grow up thinking that they are unworthy or deficient in some way. Due to this, he could face difficulty in making friends or conforming to the structure of a school setting. He may experience delayed speech and language skills, and will tend to fare poorer academically compared to his happier peers. These days, children who feel emotionally neglected at home may turn to social networking sites (such as Facebook, Instagram or Twitter) to seek the attention and social interaction that they crave. This can be dangerous, as there are many child predators online. This also exposes them to cyber-bullying. Signs and symptoms of emotional neglect often manifest into problematic or self-destructive social or behavioural patterns. They include: anxiety or depression, destructive behaviour, temper tantrums, physical aggression, drug/alcohol use, chronic lying, excessive fears/phobias, lack of personal hygiene, overeating/abnormal eating habits, stealing or hoarding food, lack of self-control, unwilling to follow rules, wetting or soiling themself, extreme risk taking, running away, lack of eye contact, overdeveloped startle response, nightmares and suicidal thoughts or tendencies. Building deep connections It is important to connect with your child emotionally. Here are some tips to help you get started: · Validate your child – Listen to what he says when he talks to you. Make sure that you give him your undivided attention. If you are busy, take a minute to explain why you can't give him your full attention right then. · Parent your child together – Child care is a shared responsibility; if you feel that your spouse is not pulling his or her weight as a parent, talk it out and discuss how you can work together as a team to build a balanced and emotionally stable family. · Don't be afraid to say you're sorry – There may be times when you do or say something that hurts your child's feelings. When this happens, do the right thing by apologising to him. This will teach him to take responsibility for his mistakes. · Be realistic in your expectations – Having realistic expectations of what your child can or cannot handle will help you determine how much care and supervision he needs. · Compliment your child – Don't be stingy with praises when he does something good, such as making his own bed or is well-behaved on your outing together. More importantly, make sure that your compliments are honest and heartfelt. · Talk to other parents – Don't be shy to get tips or exchange notes with other parents. Parenting classes, seminars or guidebooks may help you cope better with the demands and challenges of parenthood. You may also consult a child psychiatrist to learn more about your child. >This article is courtesy of the Malaysian Paediatric Association's Positive Parenting programme in collaboration with expert partners Nutrition Society of Malaysia, Obstetric and Gynaecological Society of Malaysia, Malaysian Mental Health Association, Malaysian Psychiatric Association, National Population and Family Development Board Malaysia, Malaysian Association of Kindergartens and Association of Registered Childcare Providers Malaysia. The opinion expressed in the article is the view of the author. For further information, please visit www.mypositiveparenting.org. |
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